DOWRY AND ITS SOLUTION

Dowry in India was born in Rajput’s (Kings) & Baniya (Business class) community of Ancient time, as they were rich enough. In Rajput’s it was in form of Elephants, horses, cows, bullocks etc. by the father of Princess, with a commitment of help during war. Marriage became a part of Politics, a medium to make more allies. Later this system expands & with course of time it became a mandatory custom. In various region of India dowry is given somewhere by bride’s father & somewhere by groom’s father also.

Now in today’s context dowry as a primary step have numerous divisions in successive steps, like divorce, murder, abusing, rape etc. Dowry in today’s world with & without its existence gives birth to certain heinous crimes.

In order to come to a solution we have to know the cause of such sin & i.e. Marriage. The existence of dowry got its energy in the way we defines a marriage in India.

Now the question moves to the definition of marriage & why it should be done?

1. Do we marry so as we have to reproduce as god had given us the power to go with it & it’s our duty to give birth to young ones & take care of them carefully as we are different from plants & other animals? Nowadays surrogacy & adoption are some ways to give birth & take care of someone if you needs.

2. Do we marry so as to get our food ready, washed utensils, clothes & other household works? Nowadays maids are easily available in India due to poverty and lack of employment. You can get a maid for washing utensils & clothes, a maid for making food. Basically you need a wife or husband, not a servant. Yes sometimes people need a cup of tea or some chapatti made by their partner, in which both man & woman can equally participate.

3. Do we marry for satisfaction of our physical needs? India with an explosion of population has certain centers of legal sexual relationships, for those who are so much keen to such needs & there is an option of live in relationship also. Otherwise it’s not necessary or a recommended activity to live a healthy life.

4. Do we marry for not being alone? There are several societies available. You can join any one of them and you will never feel alone. You will meet a no. of fellows living an unmarried life there.

Than what is the purpose of marriage?

1. Marriage in itself is generating a power within our mind which will flow to our body and express in our work, the power to make commitment and follow that commitment until your death. It’s a Promise and maintaining the dignity of our promise. In Hindi we can say “vachan”.

2. Marriage is trust in itself on both sides. A trust to help & take care in any situation whether it is medical, legal or else. For example a million dollar company comes to ground. Suddenly what will happen? All the business partners will behave as strangers. But the bond of marriage have provided you a partner who still have trust in you, and his/her trust is enough to become a tycoon again.

3. Marriage in itself is a Support which a person need during ups & downs of life.

So net a whole we get some jewels which are unavailable in market, and we can’t buy them with money and they are:-

SUPPORT TRUST PROMISE COMMITMENT.

Now what we have to do, we have to teach our upcoming generation from their birth about these most precious, UN buy-able & easily unavailable jewels. Once the generation understand the concept, they will search & develop these jewels & sins like dowry will automatically disappears.

Kalicharan Nayal